My name is Sabeen Shalapy. I chose the name “Gratitude” to represent me because I think this word more or less summarizes my life. I am grateful for everything that happened in my life because it brought me where I am today, spiritually. I live in North Cyprus with my husband of fourteen years, Ahmed. We have had our share of ups and downs but since my quest for personal development and spirituality began, there are mostly ups and a general atmosphere of peace, love and harmony in our home (atleast for now ).
However I do believe that people evolve and grow, change is inevitable. If both people in a relationship are growing, the relationship prospers if not then it becomes stagnant. You can't force your ideas on someone it is not very pleasant for you or the other person. I don't try to control or please people. I allow myself and others to pursue their own path. Any relationship should last only as long as it is beneficial to both individuals. If a person is required to continue in a relationship past the time it is beneficial to him/her then that person loses. It wont be possible for you to satisfy the needs of anyone else in a relationship if you are acting out of duty instead of love or enthusiasm.
We also have a six year old son, Saif that we adore.
Since I started to
I started to live my life to the fullest instead of just going through the motions. And this is what I expect you to learn from the content on this website.
I love being a mother now more then I ever did before maybe because I have learned to be in the moment. Just being with my son gives me so much joy.
When he was born, I was enrolled in a PhD programme in marketing but my heart wasn’t really in it. I had a young baby and after a while I decided to take a break from my studies. I didn’t know what I wanted to do. Like most people I wondered about my purpose
in life. I would often get a feeling that something was missing but didn’t know what it was. I can admit it now that then I had a weak
based on worry and fear. These are the most destructive personality traits anyone could have. I was overly sensitive which I thought was a good quality. I would often get my feelings hurt but was too proud to let any one know about it. The one thing that I wanted most was a sense of peace and joy but I was looking for these in all the wrong places.
One day I was watching TV and ideally flipping channels and I came across Oprah Winfrey Show. They were talking about something called,
The Law of Attraction
. It sounded interesting. That is the day my real journey in life began. I watched the DVD called, “The Secret”. It is about the workings of this law. But was just the tip of the iceberg, there were many things missing from it. I still had much to discover. But the strange thing was that since the day I learned about this law, I found opportunities to gain priceless wisdom.
I came across books on spirituality, metaphysics and quantum physics both new and old. These books opened up my mind in unimaginable ways. Most importantly I made a habit to meditate; I think that is the only way to get access to the inner wisdom. I found that my
is the best guide and teacher that I could ever have. This realization gave me the peace and a sense of real happiness I was looking for. With this point of view a new life and a new world began to open out to me.
Discovering & Sharing
I was eager to share my new found wisdom. However I don’t believe in forcing my views on people who are not ready for this kind of information, more times then often they get offended. I do like to discuss these concepts with my brother who lives in London. You can say he and I are on the same wave length.
I believe that if someone is looking for a deeper meaning to their life, they will find it. Maybe through their higher self, website, a book, some TV show, a friend or a teacher, possibilities are endless. One thing is for sure that through one channel or other they will find what they were consciously or unconsciously looking for or rather it will find them.
I am still learning and growing. This process never ends unless of course you want it to. I created this website to document all that I have learned, am learning and will learn. It helps me keep track of the progress I have made so far but more importantly this material also helps to guide you in your own journey in life.
At first I was a bit reluctant to put ads and donation boxes. Then I reasoned that abundance comes through many channels and in many forms, money is one of the symbols of abundance and the donation box, one of the channels through which it could come. I want to keep all the ways open, through which abundance can reach me.
Everything in the universe is energy, what I write is also a form of energy and if it makes you feel good then it is positive energy, when you make a donation or feel good when you read it, you send positive energy my way. All the interactions in any way shape or form are the means through which we add to each other's energy.
I believe that your passion whatever that might be, always have the capability to support you. Abundance follows you when you follow your joy.
Abundance for me is the ability to do what I want to do, when I want to do it and that I do every day.
When anything on this website makes a difference to your life and accelerates your personal growth that is a form of abundance for me and you and the whole purpose of ask-gratitude.com. As I have said before we are all connected spiritually. The good you do for someone always advances you too and makes you better off in some way and indeed I have advanced in more ways then one since I started this website.
Things I Love
I always do things that excite me and give me joy. Life is suppose to be fun. Happiness is your true nature. When you follow your bliss you start to realize your higher self and live the life you were meant to live.
I am interested in quantum physics, alchemy, teleportation, parallel realities and dimensions.
I have no interest in politics, governments or religions. I respect all belief systems but I don't follow any particular one. I am not saying that people who do follow specific rituals are wrong because nothing is right or wrong. Everything just is and everyone is free to follow their own heart. For me as I change, this change also reflects itself in my spirituality. One thing that I know for sure is that there is a field of intelligence that permeates everything and everyone and when we let it express itself through us that is when we learn the meaning of true happiness.
Doing what I want to do in that particular moment is my favourite thing to do. I am lazy and have learned to enjoy it. I see nothing wrong with being selfish, I call it self love. I have discovered that when I feel unconditional love for myself that is when I feel it for others too, without expecting anything in return because I already have and feel all that I want. When there are no expectations there is only contentment, joy and empowerment.
"Allow yourself to understand that the relaxation you experience when you "Go with the Flow" is not giving up control, it is "Taking Control." It is just that the natural control you already contain doesn't meet with resistance.". - Bashar
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