If you want to experience happiness and the true joy of living then you must live in the present moment. Not in the past and not in the future but in the present. Don’t dwell on what happened yesterday or what could go wrong tomorrow. Relax in the present where you are now.
It is good to have pleasant and happy memories but don’t obsess about a negative situation which happened in the past. You can’t change what happened by thinking about it. Stop wasting your time and energy on this useless activity.
As I said many times before, when you focus on something positive or negative you attract more of it in your life. This is called
law of attraction
. By thinking negative thoughts you are inviting more unpleasant situations in your life. Whenever you feel negative, don’t ignore your feeling but acknowledge it and then let go of it
. Ask yourself that why you are feeling this way and what is the root of it. As you are working to pull out the root, at the same time look at the positive side. You must remember that behind every experience in your life a divine intelligence is at work to take you towards wholeness and happiness.
You must do what you need to do in the present moment and do it well; you must create strongly in the present. However it is not your job to worry about the future. If you are in a habit of worrying over the smallest of things which you think could happen, ask yourself, “Has this happened yet?” Most of the things you fear never occur, and the few that do occur, you have the ability to handle them. The energy and strength wasted on worry is more then enough to enable you to conquer your real troubles when they occur.
Though each situation that you face is designed with perfection in order for you to evolve but nonetheless the quality of your experiences is determined by the choices that you make in each moment.
Living in the present does not mean that you do not consider the consequences of your choices. You must take in to account the consequences of your decisions, this is choosing responsibly. You learn from every situation however the choice of a particular path is also the choice of particular types of experiences. For example if you choose the path of learning through jealousy you will experience anxiety. You will feel insecure about what you think you cannot live without. In the same way if you
choose the path of learning through clarity and love, you will experience happiness and being loved by others.
If your present situation is a difficult one and you are not sure how you will cope with it, remember that you are bigger then what is happening at the moment. Practice acceptance, it doesn’t mean giving up. It means not labeling a situation as “good” or “bad”. The more you will resist a situation, more it will persist. When you make peace with a situation and then take action, your efforts are not contaminated by negativity. Things are much more likely to work out if you are in a harmonious state of mind. Know that every situation passes and you have the ability to survive it. The more challenging a situation is, through and after survival you rise to higher levels of spiritual and
Living in the present does not mean that you should not have goals. You must have an aim, a
purpose to your life
but do not associate your happiness with your goals. True joy comes from within. When you have inner peace and strength you achieve your goals without struggling through life. Instead of saying, “When I am wealthy, I will be happy” say instead, “I am grateful and happy NOW that I am prosperous and abundant”.
You are living in this world so you must have things to make life comfortable for you and your family. Spiritual enlightenment does not mean that you should start living in a cave and give up all your worldly possessions. You should have abundance in all areas of your life be it spiritual or financial. What you should understand is that you own the things and it is not the things that own you. Meaning you should not get unduly attached to your material possessions, your happiness should not depend on them. If you loose them you should not feel that your life is over.
Some people think that their happiness lies in what they have or could have. If their beloved possessions are taken away from them they feel that they can not go on with their lives. While others who possess inner strength not only acquire back what they loose but become even more prosperous then before. These courageous people understand that their power is not in any external thing but it is within their own selves.
When you are on a quest of true happiness, you should avoid “if only” fantasies. For example a person says that if he gets a new car he will be happy. He gets a new car but his happiness is short lived. He finds that his friend is driving a better car. He wishes for a more expensive car to be happy. He gets that too but then he sees something better which someone else has and his happiness turns in to longing for something else. He is in a constant state of “wanting” and unhappiness.
When you feel that you are in a habit of wanting what you do not have instead of what you do have, when you see the grass in other pastures as greener only because it is in the other pasture, confront it. You must challenge this feeling by realizing that when you have these kinds of envious thoughts you are not in the present moment. What you are doing is letting energy leak to a future that does not exist. You should not loose power over what ifs of your life. These are endless. Understand the power of “now”. Keep your power in the present time.
Take a look at your life. Remember the last time you bought something. Let’s say it is a house. There is a concept called “hedonic adaptation”—the brain’s natural dimming effect, which guarantees that a new house wont generate the same pleasure a year after its purchase or the thrill of having a new boyfriend or girlfriend will diminish as you get used to being part of a couple. Happy people know this that is why they keep renewing their lives by continually taking on new challenges and fulfilling their sense of
purpose in life
We are surprisingly bad at predicting what will make us happy. A high powered career might in fact turn out to be unfulfilling; a committed relationship once longed for could end up being irritating with all the compromising that comes with having a partner. It is hard to let go of dreams even if they have turned sour. In situations like these always remember that you are not what you do for a living, you are not the things you own and you are not the other half of another person. Life is, you are and things happen. Don’t harbor feelings of anger, unjustness and unfairness.
It doesn’t mean you are a failure, it is just a life experience and that is ALL it is. There is a reason behind it and if you face it with the intention of learning from it with wisdom and courage, it could be a turning point in your life. It could turn in to the best thing that could happen to you. Sometimes things don’t work out the way you want them to. Let go and you will make room for something better.
It is your birth right to live in joy and be happy. You can have a constant feeling of peace and happiness when you move towards your higher self rather then your
. I have talked about this concept quite a few times in my other articles. As I have said before, your personality is just your base exterior and your real self is hidden beneath it. When you are entirely dependent upon the abilities of your personality to determine what is best for you, you may block the way for richness that awaits you. When you realize who you really are you will not over value the external furnishings. If you act according to the advice of your higher self or
in every thing you do, you will be successful in fulfilling all your life purposes.
You can not be truly happy unless you completely TRUST the Universe or God or Divine Intelligence or whatever is your preferred term. Trusting means that the situation you are in is working towards your best and most appropriate end. You should not have any doubt about it. You must know that all power is with you, every second of your life. You may not see it now but that is not important. You must know and believe that all the pieces of the puzzle (that is your life) will fall in to place at the right time. Trust the Universe and your
to guide you towards true happiness.