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People that bug you the most…

There could be people in your life that annoy you or try to control you; they may have very best intentions for you. They may think that they know what is best for you but the only one who really knows you is you. Therefore the only decisions about your life that really serve you are the ones that you make.

This is true because if you follow a path that is lined up for you by somebody else then you are living another person’s dream and not your own. Sooner or later you will realize it and resent that person. If you are not happy yourself (no matter how successful you are in the eyes of others) then you can’t be a source of happiness for people around you too. So it is in everybody’s interest that you lead your life in a way that serves you the best because then you will be able to serve others in the best possible way also. True joy only comes from following your own heart.

A tool for awareness

Having said that, the people in your life that bug you the most are the very same people who help you grow the most. The contrast that they provide for you helps you to decide and define your own unique preferences. Your realization of what you don’t want leads to the awareness of what you do want. So the difficult people in your life are there for your evolution. They make you aware of your individuality. They are the ones that help you in your greatest expansion but they are also the very ones that you use in your excuse to not to go there.

It all depends upon how you define your relationship to all that is happening in your life including the people. If you see them as a tool for your growth, that let you become aware of your own desires so that you become more of yourself then that’s the effect you will get out of your relationships. If you think of them as an obstacle in your path then that’s what they will be. Universe supports you unconditionally in all your expectations and beliefs whatever they maybe.

Giving positive meaning to a situation leads to a positive effect

Regardless of what anybody else’s intentions are towards you, you will always get a positive outcome from every situation, if you give that situation a positive meaning. The most important thing is how you define a situation. No circumstance or situation has a built in meaning, they are neutral blank and empty scenarios. They are a set of relationship props. Any neutral situation you give a positive meaning, to you will get a positive effect. This is simple physics for you, what you put out is what you get it back. Don’t take my word for it but try it for yourself.

Nature of your true self

You can do the things in your life you are attracted to, that you are enthusiastic about, that represents your true excitement (with integrity of course). You will then see your reality changing. Joy is the physical representation of the nature of your true higher self. It is your natural vibration. The more joy you feel the closer you get to your core self. You don’t have to fear anyone or any situation because the vibration you are is the reality you will experience.

When situations don’t change immediately

Also remember that when you define the situations in a positive way and when you follow your heart or joy sometimes the manifestations don’t change immediately, it doesn’t mean that you have done something wrong. When you change your beliefs and definitions, your reality always changes and often immediately but sometimes you might see the same scenario manifesting all around you. The difference that lets you know that there is a difference is that you respond differently to it then you did before. Not that it looks any different but it is you acting differently towards it. That let you know that your reality has changed because no matter what it looks like on the surface you will only get a positive effect out of it.

How to respond to people who want to control you?

That is all very encouraging as you might say but how do you actually respond to people who want you to go their way instead of your own. I am not saying that you should be disrespectful towards them. Be polite but firm and tell them what you intend to do, once. Don’t repeat it and go about doing your thing. Don’t discuss, don’t argue and don’t force your point of view on them. The idea of forcing your point of view on someone else is not trusting and believing in the idea yourself. It is an expression of powerlessness.

Allow them to sulk or be angry or to feel or react in whatever way they desire to do so. You are not responsible for their reality neither are they for yours. Know that as you are learning and expanding from the experience so are they. Everybody is ultimately fine and on his own true path unless they let somebody else interfere with what they are enthusiastic or passionate about.

How to handle criticism?

Sometimes what others might say to you may have nothing to do with you but with their own fears or insecurities. Let’s say you are walking in a park and someone comes up to you and start to criticize the colour of your hat. “But wait a minute”, you say to yourself, “I am not wearing a hat at all, what an interesting person with an interesting reality” and then you continue with your walk because it doesn’t concern you. You can apply the same principle if someone says something negative about you. Does it have anything to do with you? Yes, no, maybe. The point is to take it lightly. If you could use it for your advancement then do so in a way that gives you the greatest joy otherwise move on with your life.

Universe supports you!

Remember if you have a desire to do something then you also have within you the capability to do it otherwise you wouldn’t have had that desire in the first place. Also if your heart tells you to not to do a certain thing then you shouldn’t do it regardless of how much people pressure you to do it. It doesn’t matter if others support you or not because the universe ALWAYS supports you in accomplishing the desires of your heart.

“At a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what's happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That's the world's greatest lie” - The Alchemist.

Much Gratitude to Bashar & Abraham Hicks for the inspiration.

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