Relationships Article

by Susan Bowers
(Lancaster, South Carolina, USA)

Pranic nourishment is a fascinating topic. In regards to the article, I spent the first fifty years of my life desperately wanting to find this fairy tale love. I agree with everything you are saying here. I wonder if relationships are really the means rather than the end.

I think our challenge in this world is to learn to put God or Spirit, our Higher Self, Greg Braden's Divine Matrix, or whatever you call this energy, at the center of our lives. Edgar Cayce, a great mystic and healer, gives the analogy that we come in and our mission is to find a great treasure in the ocean. We dive in, but we encounter so many sharks that we ultimately forget the treasure and just spend all our time fighting off sharks. I think we can connect everyday with Spirit through other people and nature, and that Spirit connects and communicates with us through them.

My husband passed away unexpectedly in 2000. At the time we had purchased a Newfoundland dog who quickly became my substitute life companion. I am a huge dog lover anyway, and when Pogo recently died, it was devastating. What I have learned about myself, though, is how much I am willing to make someone else the center of my life, rather than myself, or Spirit. In the weeks after Pogo died, my first thoughts in the morning were, "I need to get his breakfast," etc, etc. Certainly we all do this with our children.

I think relationships are our greatest teachers on this planet. And sometimes, of course, it is the most adversarial relationship that is our greatest teacher. I have thought about this a lot, not only in regards to relationships with people, but our relationship with anything that takes us away from God, ie, addictions to food, cigarettes, alcohol, etc, etc. So instead of using relationships as a way to get to God, we make the relationship the God. How terribly unfair this is to the other person, having the pressure of making another life happy and fulfilled.

So at this time in my life I really am looking forward to practicing putting Spirit at the center of my life. This seems to be the opportunity that is being given to me right now, the hand that has been dealt. We are all on this journey, and whatever different paths we all take, I do think we probably all end up in the same place.

Thank you Sabeen for providing a forum to discuss these issues that really matter in our lives.