Relationships are just icing on the cake!
I recently read one of Jasmuheen’s books called Pranic Nourishment a topic that I find fascinating. But the book is not just about the possibility of living on prana but it also features many meditations and methods to help us gain freedom in other parts of life also. In one of the chapters she gives an interesting analogy of how our intimate relationships are like icing on the cake that is life, not the whole cake but just something that decorates an already delicious cake.
If we understand this then we will stop putting so much pressure on this area of our life to be perfect. The mistake that most people make is that they think of their relationships as something that defines their whole life and not just a part of it. We want an ideal partner who will make our lives a bed of roses, who will love us in good times and bad times, who will be a source of happiness in our lives. No wonder most relationships based on such ideas fail because the source of joy is within us and not in anything or anyone else. When we expect someone else to complete us we consciously or unconsciously think of our own selves as incomplete.
A vibration of incompleteness only attracts more of it whether in a form of a relationship or feelings of loneliness when you are by yourself. You have to learn to love yourself first, have a love affair with yourself before you even think about having it with another. Love yourself just as you would expect another to love you. Not only appreciate yourself in thoughts but also in action, like taking yourself out to dinner to your favourite restaurant or to the movies. Let your inner beauty shine through the vibration of self love.
Almine in her book, Life Of Miracles says, “Sentimental love is a joyous emotion that results from believing that another completes us. We may choose a partner who brings in what we don’t have, or haven’t developed yet, or have given away. Consequently, in his or her presence we experience wholeness. It is a false sense of wholeness, but it can elicit joy. That explains why some people feel that they have no identity away from the union as a couple. The same feeling of joy that results from sentimental love, can be developed within ourselves by balancing our emotional aspects.”
When you feel comfortable and happy in your own company, when you enjoy doing things by yourself, when you become a clear channel through which life expresses itself that is when you are ready to have a relationship with another person and that is also when you will attract a healthy relationship to your life. When you feel unconditional love and a feeling of bliss without any apparent reason that is when you physically manifests people and situations representative of such positive vibrations.
When you are part of a couple you should continue to pay loving attention to yourself. When you feel your own worthiness and engage in self appreciation every now and then, you don’t have a need for anyone else to make you feel that way. There is no neediness and you love your partner without any conditions or expectations and that is unconditional love.
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You must truly love yourself before anyone can truly love you!
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