Spiritual Partnership and Marriage
The concept of spiritual partnership is new to most of us. In this kind of partnership two equals enter in a committed, compassionate and loving relationship for the purpose of their spiritual growth. If you think of your marriage as a spiritual partnership then you have a greater chance of making it a success. The institution of marriage is based on physical survival. You feel secure when you are part of a couple. You work together with your partner to attain all the worldly possessions to make your life a success. While that is important to have a comfortable life and to have all the things that we need to make it so, sometimes we forget or we don’t know the bigger reason of being with our partner. We don’t think about the real purpose of our relationship. That is why most marriages today are falling apart. Most of us strive to gain external power, to dominate our partner but that only creates powerlessness. This is because if your spouse doesn’t do what you expect him or her to do then you loose power. The real strength is in authentic or inner power . If you want a strong and fulfilling relationship with your partner then you need to understand that the reason you two are together is the spiritual growth of the pair of you. What does it mean? Very simply think of your husband or wife as your teacher. At first you will probably scoff at this idea but please read on. When I say teacher I don’t mean that he or she will teach how to drive a car or how to cook or how to do any other worldly thing. What I mean is that you will learn about the weak points in your personality so that you can fix it and be closer to your higher self.
How does it happen? Let’s say you have a problem with jealousy and in order to heal this splintered aspect of your personality the universe will provide you, through your partner many situations that will tempt you to act on this negative emotion. These situations will keep on repeating themselves unless you learn that jealousy creates nothing but coldness and distance in your relationship. So what you can do to overcome this or any other negative emotion? Just remember that whatever is happening can only tempt your personality . Remember your higher self that fears nothing and that is above all temptations. Remember that you are a powerful being and let the illusion play. Believe that every situation in your life is taking you towards wholeness. Every situation is perfect for your spiritual healing. However this healing can happen only when you stop reacting to the situations in your life with fear, doubt and anger. When you learn your lesson form each situation with wisdom and clarity, it passes away because it has served its purpose. Mind you it could take many circumstances for you to release all the negativity that is in you. Meaning if you only stop reacting to the unfavorable situations but your thoughts still have negativity in them, you will continue to have similar experiences. You have to completely cleanse your heart and mind to change your future circumstances. Stop being judge mental and stay away from critical thoughts and behavior. Spiritual partnership is a two way stream. You each hold the piece of a puzzle that the other is missing. When you learn a spiritual lesson from your partner, you also give him the opportunity to learn what he is suppose to from you. Let’s go back to our example. If you are jealous and you see that jealousy angers your partner then that is the lesson he needs to learn, that is to control his temper. You will find that a negative emotion in you is what brings to the surface in your partner an aspect that needs to be healed.
I don’t mean to say that you should confront your partner and tell her that she needs to learn the lesson of anger, jealousy or any other negative behavior that she expresses. If you do that then most probably she will respond with defensiveness, especially if the idea of spiritual partnership is new to her. Never force your opinions on another person. For now change yourself and learn the lessons that you need to learn with peace and understanding. Your partner will come around in time. If you wish your relationship to become loving and compassionate then become loving and compassionate yourself. You will be amazed at how your world will change around you. You will know when the time is right to discuss the concept of spiritual partnership with your spouse. If you want to improve your relationship then you have to practice being in your partner’s shoes. Learn the value of considering her position by becoming her, by truly walking in her fears and insecurities. This way you will have more consideration and understanding for your partner while you are learning your own lessons. You will always find what you look for this is the law of attraction . So make it a habit to focus your attention on the good qualities and virtues of your partner rather then on his short comings. If you continue with this practice you will notice that after a while he will start displaying more good qualities and his faults will slowly fade away. You cannot become compassionate with yourself without becoming compassionate with your partner or with your partner without becoming compassionate with yourself. When you begin to look and find strengths and virtues in your partner, you begin to see them in yourself also. In a spiritual partnership there is a commitment between the partners to assist in each other’s spiritual growth. They recognize their equality. They can distinguish between personality and soul so their discussions and interactions are not overly emotional and not at all defensive. They know that there is a deeper reason why they are together, that has a lot to do with the advancement of their souls. They understand that they are together because it is appropriate for their souls to grow together so that the weaknesses in their personalities can be healed. When you are in a sacred partnership you know that instead of nagging or complaining you should share your concerns with consideration and with the intention to heal. When you do that with courage and not fear you will feel a sense of trust in yourself, your partner and Universe or God. You will know that for your relationship to be strong, each of you must be inwardly strong and secure. When you have self respect you automatically respect your partner. You learn that to make your partnership honest, loving, joyful and fulfilling you both need to work on it. You must both want it to be that way and create it every day.
Your power increases with each responsible choice that you make in your relationship for example choosing compassion instead of anger. As the negativities from your personalities and your relationship melt away, your consciousness’ becomes lighter and your relationship becomes richer. Coping with infidelity >
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